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Originally Posted by Jersey01
When you read something somewhere and your initial reaction is "Oh, so and so is being so selfish" And you can't be empathic to their situation because of your initial reaction-Does that make me an uncaring mean person?
Just to note: This has nothing to do with anything that I read on the couch. I'm just asking..
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Oh, it definitely does not mean you are uncaring. Everybody's life experiences and situation comes into play, so depending on where you are, your viewpoint and feelings will be different.
My sister was complaining the other day about having to help my mom financially. We both give her some money each month (only $100-$150 each) to help her with her mortgage - and she provides us with childcare when we need it. My sister and her husband make a decent income (maybe $120,000/year or more) - and her husband actually barely works (for his dad's company) but gets a full paycheck. They are "strapped" because they spend more than they earn. So, my sister complains about giving my mom money and tries to compare MY situation to hers....as if we are in the "same boat"....Umm, I got divorced 3 years ago, losing half of my household income, then went on disability, and then lost my job....and am now bringing in half of what I need to pay my monthly bills...and unemployment ends in a month.
I cannot have much empathy for my sister when she has 10x the amount of money coming into her house and goes on lavish vacations 3-4x/year...and it ticks me off that she could even possibly THINK about putting us in the "same boat"....