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Old Nov 21, 2012, 02:38 PM
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Originally Posted by Trippin2.0 View Post
This may not apply, but after being in an emotionally/physically abusive relationship, I cant stand the words 'I'm sorry' from someone who hurts me. Its actually quite triggery as it gets my back up the wall pretty fast. I prefer remorse to be shown via actions not words, as 'I'm sorry' means ABSOLUTELY nothing to me. Have nothing new to add, the rest has already been spoken.So yeah,just thought that may help if your wife doesnt respond to apologies.I commend you for reaching out,that took alot of courage .
I agree with this 100%. At one time in my relationship I was the abuser and made my boyfriends life a living hell when my illness was totally out of control and I refused to really accept help from my medical team. He basically told me that MY ACTIONS would determine if we stayed together. Words mean nothing if there are no actions to back it up.
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