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Old Nov 21, 2012, 02:39 PM
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Originally Posted by elliemay View Post
The fact that if you are a survivor of abuse/trauma then most everything in your life - all of your behaviors, feelings, actions get attributed to that.

It feels like *me* as a person just gets written off because an event that happened years ago.

You know, even success in my *career* gets written off as perfectionistic qualities relating to wanting to please my parents.

My ingenuity, my humor, my empathy, my love of animals, and quiet. It's all just sequela of abuse. Right?

Along the lines of what Wikid said here - that's ********. I am good at what I do.

I am a person. I am not an event from my past. I can't be written off. I am not a set of symptoms.

I am not a virus whose behaviour infects all of my personal relationships.

All I can say is that my therapist better recognize that. I think I will tell him. Yeah. I think I will.
I used the thank-you button but for this post I wanted to thank you in "person".
I feel exactly the same but have never really been able to articulate it before. I know what I'm talking about tomorrow in my therapy. Thank you.