Shouldn't the decision be with your MOTHER? Why isn't SHE making the decisions? Why is your SISTER making the decisions in the house. It isn't her house is it? I thought you said it was your MOTHERS' house! It seems to me that your sister is being a bully, and your Mother isn't making the decisions that she SHOULD be making!!! Why isn't she?

Is there any way you can get your fiance' to apologize to sister? Even if he thinks he was "right" it would help get things back to some semblance of order, and perhaps make the holidays a bit brighter. See if he'll man-up and apologize.

If he won't -- Then tell Mom or Dad to take hold of the situation -- why is sister making all the decisions in the house? Isn't it your parents home? Why is sister making al the decisions? She's a big bully -- and she's making everyone miserable. Have your folks straighten sister out!!!

I wish you the very best my friend. God bless and please take care. Hugs, Lee