HA grief councelor who has been of great help to me before therapy told me to remember the "glasses" we all wear with our personal view on the world on what is -in general- right and what is wrong, good and bad. She said it was natural and the only way to come across that is to REALIZE that we do and always have those perception so we can be open to other people´s views and perceptions.

Here´s the thing I believe that many therapists, though not all, have specific ideas on how to lead a "good" life. What is "healthy" and what their clients must achieve and do to be happy and healthy and well off and make no secret about it to their patients, either directly or subtle and try wether conciously or unconsciously to make their patients see it "their" way to go through life the way "they" think it´s "right".
I especially noticed this from my sister´s therapy. She started to change a lot in her outside life. Not all bad, good things, but it didn´t feel like it came from "her" and she kept telling me "I really should really grow up, I must do this, I think everybody should do it this or that way".....

Ever since my Dad died my perception has changed on what I want from life and my priorities.

Im not sure it fits into some therapists perception on what is a "right" life.
You know, go to school, go to college, get a job, get married, have children, grandchildren, die.

I guess it also has to do with society.

I guess it´s a challenge. You want and need to trust your therapist, but you also need to stay true to your values and what you want from life.

What are your thoughts on this?