Hmm the last bit there that she said to you,

I think I would take as her actually calling it off. And it could be that was what she was trying to do, and did not have the guts or communication skills to do it in an upfront manor. So she may have went in a little circle of excuses there. People do that all the time. People are also good at taking or projecting there experience or response to something onto someone else... your calling her, to me seems like something she could have talked to you about, and tried to understand your reason for doing so whether it annoyed her or not. Her saying you had not honored that, but she also offered no explanation and just took off.. what is she honoring exactly? It takes two to tango, bipolar or no bipolar.. a relationship is about the needs of both people not just one person.

I could be wrong, but this relationship is new. And I hate to use bipolar as an excuse for everything when there is so much more room for other things to be at play. Personality, people with bipolar all vary, just like everyone else. They way people think, their issues, how they handle relationships, the why's and how's... too varied to pin it all on bipolar in my opinion. Getting into the habit of bending over backwards for someone in any relationship, no matter their issues is probably not a good idea. It's one thing to ask for some space and another to shift entirely, ask for space and offer no reasoning at all. You are supposed to take all her feelings into consideration here, and she is not willing to do the same back. that is what I am getting from this. I don't think that is reasonable, despite any dx. To me that would be being a door mat. It's kind of early in the relationship to be asking for so much of you. She has also been verbally aggressive with you and slept with her ex in this time? From a different thread. She also told you she would hurt you.. and from the sounds of that thread.. lacks boundaries and respect for others feelings, yes blunt, but that is what I think. Actually she doesn't really sound very nice.

I know you feel sad and hurt, and it is a hard time for you. Just try not to sit there and take the blame for what happened.. To me it doesn't sound like she is taking much accountable for herself or her relationships with others, perhaps not even her own stability. Maybe she is not ready for relationships.."she can't deal with the emotion of seeing me. She said it tips her over, every time she enters into a relationship." That is hers and she has to own it, that has nothing to do with you. She said every time she enters into a relationship. So it would seem to be a pattern and it's hers, you can't fix that for her.

I am sorry you are hurting, keep taking care of you.. it will pass.. breakups are never easy