My T's philosophy, and I think this is true of many Ts who work with trauma, is that I have to be in control at all times. If I don't want to talk about it, we don't talk about it. But as Dr. Phil says, "how's that working for ya?" I was not happy with the effects of the trauma in my daily life, and I knew that talking about it was the way to get some relief. So we talked about it in small, manageable pieces, and if I ever got overwhelmed and said "Stop," we stopped.

I encourage you to share your concerns with your T. If she knows that you worry about being pushed, then she can be extra careful to be aware of that.