so... I recalled one writer saying that a man is a man so long as he has one finger. This is true - you can satisfy a woman with one finger. But that is woman-centric sex. I had this sex with my impotent lover who was proud of his ability to give me literally endless orgasms. And everything was good. With this French guy, sex was very phallic. It was about his pleasure. I would come briefly, once, and the emphasis was not on my orgasms. Not at all. And I was OK with it. I was just pleased that he was SOOOO excited to be with me, just beyond belief.

So I basically need to switch him from phallic sex to woman-centric sex. I have absolutely no clue how to go about it, but at least I have formulated the task before me. Now I have until Dec 6 to think about it...