Anika, thank you for your reply - im at work so cant write an elaborate response. But I appreciated your input and yes, I do believe we are over. Just like that.
I know she finds getting into relationships really difficult, but i have been really supportive of that and never told her it was a problem. I am hurting so much, in fact it wont stop going over in my head. I do know though, that 2 previous partners shes spoken to me about, have said that she's been a b**ch to them...why would she tell me that? Its like shes saying this is what im like, if you come into a relationship with me, this is what to expect and its your own fault if it goes wrong and you cant handle it. But to me this is clearly not taking responsibility for your own problems?
Thank you so much for your reply and honesty xx