Self acceptance means not judging and/or putting negative labels on yourself. There's nothing worse than feeling like **** and then beating yourself up for feeling like ****.

It seems normal to me that you'd feel scared or hurt or whatever you might feel in response to this news. Just let it be, without trying to change it, and its power over you will probably recede. I'm not saying don't go into your bag of tricks like you have been, do all those things, over and over again if you need to. I'm just suggesting that you stop trying to make the feelings go away. IME they just dig in their heels and hang on harder. Let them be, and they tend to let go.

And if you like to read Buddhist stuff or just want to explore, pick up anything by Pema Chodron.