My point is that instability hasn't worked well in the long-run. She may miss the highs and the mood changes and emotionalism, but she's not remembering the problems and the separations that went along with the instability. (That's not uncommon for those of us with bipolar; we all know that.) Rather than longing for instability, which is what she originally posted about, it would seem best to find stability (in whatever form and by whatever means it takes, and yes, if she is stable off meds, that's great) so that the whole family can benefit from that stability.