Heya!

I have always offered to go dutch, esp on a first date. In fact, if it was someone I didn't want to see again, I would insist on it, so not to let them feel used. If it was someone who I wanted to see again, and they wanted to pay, I'd just say 'sure, but I'll get the next one'. - And hope they wanted to go out again!

I think the days of the man paying all the time are gone, and quite right too. Even if he earns more, I don't think a woman should expect them to pay and should deffo offer or insist on paying for a meal now and then. I have always taken turns. If its too expensive, then I'd think of other places to go for dates - cinema and then a drink perhaps, or do daytime dates when can, off to a tourist attraction or something that's free. I love meals at home, and effort & home cooked food are fab, but yes, I wouldn't offer it until a few dates in, and make sure that the person knows whats on the menu, or not, so to speak!!