I have been there. I have gone from mad and jealous, was also invalidated and told there was nothing wrong with it. When I went online I was googling about the subject and there were so many threads like this one. If you were more available, he wouldn't watch it. everyone does it. oh i watch it too. bla bla bla.

till I started therapy, and my T informed me that H has the problem- not me. And that allowing him to watch porn when it had such a bad affect on me (even when I was past the point of it activly bothering me) was enabling it. He actually suggested marital counseling. So, its tough, but he is starting to realize that if I feel it is a problem, he realizes its a problem. And despite that, he can't seem to actually stop. Addiction much?