Yuck. Definitely his attitude sucks. But I hope you will be able to get help via surgery. Also, and I am sure you are doing them but I just want to reiterate the importance, Kegels. I have urinary stress incontinence. Have had it since 16 due to a structural abnormality and then, of course, pregnancies exacerbated the problem. In 2006 I became ill with adult pertussis. I coughed for 6 weeks. Incessant coughing caused a flare-up of the incontinence and my midwife referred me to a urologist. The urologist offered surgery. I declined and managed with Kegels alone. I cannot run, but I can have intercourse without a problem. Unlike you, I do not have a uterus problem - just the bladder is my problem, so my situation is easier. But it is good to know that should my situation worsen, there is always surgery.

He most definitely should be sympathetic! Shame on him! How does he expect YOU to treat HIM in case HE develops erectile dysfunction, may I ask out loud?