Hi,

I am a 23 year old female and I have been recently having serious feelings of jealousy towards my soon to be sister in law who is 28.

She is a very nice person and I have nothing against her, I just occasionally get these strong pangs of jealousy because she is at a point in her life where I really wish I was. She has a good job, seems very happy and will be getting married soon, and will be starting a family soon after.

I am currently in college and will be done soon and will then have my dream career and I am in a very happy relationship, however I want to get married and have kids! At all the family events and gathering all the attention is on them since they are engaged, and there is always talk about the wedding and stuff which I completely understand but the feelings of jealousy still arise.

I feel guilty about getting these feelings and I know it is an important time in both of their lives. While I feel happy for both of them, I cannot control these jealous feelings towards her like she has such a great life.

Please help me! How can I feel less jealous/envious.