It's good to know that I'm not alone with this problem. It is embarrassing to acknowledge; but as Dr. Phil says, "you can't fix what you don't acknowledge." I've been doing Kegels, but must confess, not regularly. I like your sense of control you seem to have with your condition. Also, you don't seem to be afraid of surgery if needed. I am very much afraid of surgery, but will cross that bridge when I get there. I like what you said: "Shame on him! How does he expect YOU to treat HIM in case HE develops erectile dysfunction, may I ask out loud?" Kind of funny but so true. Thanks again