I commute by bike and do Kegels religiously on every red light. I do not like doing them, but I still do them.

If you have never done an*l sex, forget about it (and I have not so for me it is a theoretical conversation), but if you have and liked it in the past, this might be a question for your gynecologist - is it a safe alternative to vaginal intercourse?

Another thing that helped me was stopping excessive handwashing. The connection is as follows: by not engaging in excessive handwashing and by never using hand sanitizer, I am building up my immunity. That, in turn, helps me not come down with respiratory diseases. That helps me not cough, and coughing has always triggered my incontinence.