The very first time I cried in T was after he returned from a vacation. I had been in therapy for a while (probably over a year? ) and was realizing that I was seriously getting attached. It was hard to have him gone for the week, but I didn't realize how hard until my first session back.

I don't know quite where the tears came from and I can't remember exactly what they were about, but I know it was about missing T while he was gone. I CRIED. I'm sure I surprised both of us. We talked about it at the next session - what it felt like to cry, to have him see me cry, etc - because I had never cried before and it was so unexpected.

So, yes, I guess I do express my feelings about missing T. Although now I don't know if I tell him I missed him as much as I tell him that I'm scared about our connection not being there after the break.

I think our feelings about T are a really important part of the work in therapy, even when they're hard to talk about