Thanks guys, I realise I am doing some rejecting, but it is really because I am too nervous and I feel that this other woman was out of my league. She was a professional and all her friends were professionals, and she has hobbies and she travels, etc. I am nothing like that, so I didn't think I could go on a date there.

Yes that is good advice to get out and active. I am starting a tai chi class this week, or at least I am meant to, but I'm not ready. I think this week I will just go up to the building and have a look around and maybe go next week.

I don't mean that I resent women as a whole, i just have distorted negative thoughts now that they will reject me.

I will take down the negative stuff, but what happens when they ask me what I do? That's going to come up anyway IMO?