Well, you could say that you're working upon yourself. That you're taking fitness classes, and whatever else (positive) that you're doing. Like volunteer work? Arts and crafts? Writing? Whatever...

Where did you meet the ladies IRW who asked you out on a date? Did you talk with them very much about yourself? If so, try to use some of that positive experience towards your experiences with ladies on the web. Something I used to always yell at myself (in my brain) when I experienced major anxiety disorder was, "STOP IT!!". I'd say it over and over again, whenever my thoughts/fears went to the dark side & I couldn't stop kicking myself. You may want to try that tactic to help you gain an upper hand in fighting your anxiety.

Best wishes to you!