Im sorry you are feeling ashamed and dont know how to do the how to's...

lets break grounding down a bit for you...

grounding is just a cover all word for...

what are the things you like to do?
what things make you feel good?
what things do you find funny, happy, cheerful?
how do you express your emotions is positive ways?

for example when looking back at all your past posts I found you like to play games, you like finny animals pictures, you like many different kinds of animals, you like competition/debating in thread wars, you talk to plants and know people that talk to plants, I also found out you know how to express your emotions in positive ways and give great advice to others about what they can do when they are not feeling right....

suggestion read over all your past posts and you will see that you do know what you like, what you dont like, you know what makes you feel good, you know what things you find fun, funny, happy cheerful....

next step to grounding after knowing these things about your self is doing them....(which is where your how to do the how to comes in)

you take those things you like, enjoy, find fun, happy, cheerful... and you ask your self how you did those things...

how did you make those debating/competition posts in thread wars, how did you find those funny pictures you enjoy about animals, how did you talk yo plants , how did you know someone who talked with plants and all those other things you posted here on psych central...
of course the answer is you know how to use a computer so you know how to post and find things on the internet, you watched someone talking to plants, you opened your mouth and spoke to the plants....

so now you know what you like and how to do those things...

how do you apply what you know to "grounding"?

you just do those things you know how to do, like you normally would when you want to do them with one difference...you do them when you are feeling bad...

its just like a person would get up and take a shower when they feel dirty. or a person gets something to eat when they feel hungry, clean the house when they feel their house is dirty or when they are expecting company, doing homework when you you have a class, brush your teeth when they feel dirty, take medicine when you are feeling sick...

you got the idea of what Im talking about now lets apply it...

feeling numb... ok what things will make me feel better...I like the smell of apples... ok go spell an apple and see what that does...sniff. mmmm this apple smells nice, sweet, like summer time...now Im noticing I dont feel so numb... if i was my sense would not be registering the feeling of contentment /happiness and happy memories of spelling apples..

feeling spacy... ok what things make me feel better...taking a walk..how to do it....ok I stand up, I lift my legs and put them down in a way in which causes me to move forwards physically, I get my jacket, let my wife know Im going out for a walk and start walking, I go to the elevator. push the number 1, go through the lobby and out the door, I walk down the street....beep.. what was that.. oh a car...chatter whats that oh the people in front of me talking and laughing....wow its cold out here....thats a pretty ornament in the window...I am noticing things /people around me so Im not spacy any more.

thats putting all the elements of grounding together....

knowing what brings you postive feelings, and doing those things when you feel bad, off kilter, spacy, numb, angry....what ever the emotion, to make yourself feel better.

Around here where I live and work in NY, USA other words for the word "grounding" is... self nurture, taking care of yourself, pulling yourself up by your bootstraps and other doing something positive for your self phrases/words/