At some point this was my biggest problem, but not anymore. I was not in touch with my adult son, wanted to get in touch, and he did not just accept it - he demands explanations. He wants to know what happened to me. Now I am sweating how to explain stuff to him, including really difficult stuff such as suicidality and dependent personality disorder, and this thing pales in comparison. So I will think about it later - thanks for the opinion. I think in general the rule should be "no condoms, no sex, no questions asked" and that should be the end of it.