Unfortunately, you cannot control how others react....However, what is in your control is how you take in the response. I grew up in a physically and emotionally abusive environment which then bled through into my marriage and my job....I internalized everything that was dished out to me.

Now, I am in a somewhat healthier place - even though I cringe when I get explosive, nasty responses, I can separate it from my truth. I can get to a place where I know what is mine and what is theirs, which is incredibly helpful.

One thing that I learned is how you phrase something is important. Expressing how you feel with "I" statements is less threatening. Saying, "I feel (hurt, angry, etc.)" is much more effective than "you hurt me"....Even saying, "I feel like you..." is just another way of pointing the finger at them. Even if it's your truth, it isn't usually well received.

Regardless, many people take feedback in a way that causes them to feel defensive and lash out. What you do with it is what's important for you.