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Originally Posted by Illegal Toilet
Thanks guys, I realise I am doing some rejecting, but it is really because I am too nervous and I feel that this other woman was out of my league. She was a professional and all her friends were professionals, and she has hobbies and she travels, etc. I am nothing like that, so I didn't think I could go on a date there.
Yes that is good advice to get out and active. I am starting a tai chi class this week, or at least I am meant to, but I'm not ready. I think this week I will just go up to the building and have a look around and maybe go next week.
I don't mean that I resent women as a whole, i just have distorted negative thoughts now that they will reject me.
I will take down the negative stuff, but what happens when they ask me what I do? That's going to come up anyway IMO?
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I like Shez's suggestion about saying your working on yourself. And in this day and climate, I don't think its so hard to admit to not working at the moment - there's many a decent person out there who's been suffering with the recession.
I hope you get to go to your tai chi class - and looking around was fruitful. Good luck with everything and online dating, and please remember a few things - you're a good person and would have a lot to offer (even if not material things like a job), kindness and thoughtfulness can go a long way. You don't need to tell your life story or negative sides immediately, its nobody's business, so side-step anything too personal. And finally, please dont forget dating is as scary as you let it be, you may actually start to have fun :-)