Thank you Dexter and all who replied

I admit I have been working on the People Pleasing for along time myself. And am still working on it.

I also have been working on Boundrys at one time I had absolutly no bounderys in my personal life and made many mistakes and poor judgemet which resulted in a direct negative result on my life. So I have been to the point of having sometimes too many boundrys for myself. Which as a result has caused me at the moment to be alone with very few friends, these are things I had to look at and if these people were negative for me mentally, finacually, and emotionally.

So for instance after hopping around from place to place and in and out of group homes, I finally have a home. I have lived here for one and a half years and since I left home at 17 and now 31 I have never had a home till now. This home is the longest place I have stayed in my adult life. So the boundrys I set up for my home were : If they call and want to come over, Is this someone who I would have to go around my house and hide things from this person such as medications, loose change, cd's......If in my mind I said 'yes' then I never had them over. So that has worked so far, and visitors have been few. I need that though for me.

Although I am finding nice people here in the building who are good sincere people, and when I did say no It wasn't cause I wouldn't do it it was because of the timing, I had been awake less than an hour and my morning meds had not all the way in my system, and I wasn't dressed and she was ready to go now. However around 1pm I did go down to see if she still needed a ride, only she had gotten somewone else. So I guess I said no mostly due to the timeing. And felt better after I was 'composed' for the day and able to do it.

Thanks everyone

Take Care,
Kris

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