No, no, no, Dr. Skipper! I love your openness...it's so refreshing. I'm actually quite comfortable with the topic of sex, which I learned to be that way from the time I was hitting puberty. Underage, I was able to get Playgirl, so that was one of my first exposures to sex education (and that stuff they told us in 5th grade). I took an interest in porn and erotica, but not like most men do. I found I get turned on (or I used to, anyway...my sex drive is practically nil and I just don't find the same stimulation ) from romance novels. I like the erotica ones that have come out in the past 15 years or so, but my favorites are the standard romances, especially time-travel and historical romances. I like the terms they have for sex parts and the phrases they use and the dominant hero who tries to control the female but she ain't havin' it--no, sir!--but when he kisses her, she melts! When he gets mad at her, she feels all tingly! She gets mad at him, too...but they keep getting aroused around each other, and eventually, it explodes!!! (Is it warm in here?)

My favorite romances have a lot of humor in them, while still keeping a well-written, at least-somewhat believable story. I'm a fan of Lynsay Sands and Sandra Hill, for example.

I'm slipping off the topic...I became more comfortable with my own sexuality (although I do have some issues) because I read everything I could get my hands on when it came to sex, including educational sexual health books (like those by my beloved Dr. Ruth). Oh, to be a teen/young adult again, with that wild sex drive and at 18 (but 21 is better) and being legal to read such stuff. I learned not to be embarrassed by admitting I masturbate and not letting anyone shame me. It was my own interest and research that led me to this, not my parents or others, who did try to shame me about sex. I was an adult the first time I had sex, but I knew a lot more than my friends who were having sex did (they would ask me questions, or not believe me when I told them what Dr. Ruth would say).

I'm a feminist, but like I said before, I like romances with alpha males...to a point. There are writers whose heroes go too far, or the heroines are insipid peabrains. I like strong heroes in books, but in real life, if a man tried to control me like some in these books, I'd raise quite the fuss! And I like the heroines to be spitfires or hellions, not the type to take orders from a man, so they're a challenge to their heroes, who are used to having people obey. I do believe in male-female (and transgender/whatever) equality, but sexual fantasy can be playful and fun even if it's not your public persona, so to say.

While I'm not really into BDSM, I guess you could say I'm into light BDSM...maybe a little spanking (not to bring pain, but I just like the idea of the conquering), perhaps restrained (by someone I trusted implicitly), and having to obey the dominant. However, I also like the idea of playing the dominant. I like to experiment.

That said, buttsex just isn't my thing. I think anyone who wants to do it should enjoy themselves to their heart's desire, but with me, keep your hands and other parts away from my poop chute!