Hmmmm, I am thinking for whatever reason this is an insecurity. A little on both parts perhaps??? That's ok, though, we are all human. So...hmmmm, thinking, thinking, thinking on this one. Let me see as a mom of a twenty year old I have thought a few times you are gonna wear that? I know, that I may have even been guilty of saying this...maybe more so when she was in her teens. The point I am making, at some points as Mom's we have to let that go, as hard as it maybe because we know we have to give our children that independence. It's really hard to let a child grow and go (I know my insides right now are screaming about this-but my outsides only trickle it). I'm by no means defending your mom's actions, I am just trying to find an understanding perhaps for it. In this way we can find a better way in dealing with it, or a different perspective in how we view it. You may never change this attitude or action with your mom. It could be one of those nervous tick thingies some people do??? That she never let go in this way??? Don't really know. Do you feel close enough to your mom that you could approach this (but I am thinking if you were, you would have already right?)?

Thing is often we cannot change the view, attitude, or actions of another. The only thing we can change is our perspective and our counter actions. You have every darn right to dress as you want. Maybe to break those uncomfortable moments when your mom says something, you can say in a humorous way, thanks mom for noticing. Smile. Not sarcastically. Just seriously whimiscally in a (purposely) nonchalant manner. Practice this in private if you have to (I've done that in front of a mirror, kind of like a public speaking exercise). I hope this helps you a little to break free from this. And just try to remember sometimes these things moms' do, are just reminants of a time gone past-we still see our children as our babies no matter how old they get, and sometimes we also don't realise we are guilty of old habits, and how much they affect our adult children. I know if I were doing this to my daughter, and it was affecting her so, I'd want to change. I hope you can help your mom see this too, in whatever gentle way you can get it across, and you coming out all the better for it. You sound like a caring daughter!!! G'luck, hugs Lisa