So she told you that you are essentially in charge of dealing with your own emotions? That would be accurate, right? I mean. The only person who can really deal with your own emotions is you. No one can "fix" them for you. We all have to learn to use coping techniques to deal with things in healthy ways. I don't see how what she is saying is really incorrect. Our triggers are OUR responsibility. We would like it if we could just tell everyone what our triggers are and it be THEIR responsibility to avoid them, but the world just doesn't work like that. Triggers are triggers because of OUR reactions, and it is OUR job to learn how to react in healthier ways to things that trigger us. We can't expect people to walk on egg shells around us or to fix things for us. (Understand, I'm going on the little information you have provided so far. I'm not trying to rag on you, but perhaps you can step back and see this from a more objective perspective.)