Your feelings are understandable. You cannot get your mother to change. Only your mother can make herself change. A friend of mine who became a counselor said in college, "crazy people don't want to change. It is all they know, and they get attention." That was rather harsh, but whatever happens with your mother is her fault, not yours. You seem to have done your best to help her.

We had an intervention once, and it was a fiasco. The AA woman who was to help us got scared and bolted for the door, leaving us with a furious woman.

Later, the woman hit her husband in front of her grand children. They were in the car at the time, and her husband drove to the mental institution had had her committed. Since she committed an assault, her husband was able to keep her in for more than three days. She was furious with the family after the medication wore off. I think she was in for six months. She scammed the doctors and they had her leading group discussions and counseling sessions.

Be easy on yourself. You can do only so much.