Wow! That is so spot on for me too!

I only recently moved out on my own but housework and showering have always been difficult for me to keep up with. I don't know why, because after I do it I feel so much better!

But yes, I have a grid of things I need to do everyday separated into three sections: morning, evening, anytime. Seperating the chores throughout the day made it more manageable and it has become part of my routine. If I do it, or if it doesn't need to be done that day, I get a check. I also have an empty space on the bottom where I write special chores that come up and reminders. This has worked really well for me as its very nice to see a page full of check marks. But if that's not reinforcing enough, you could develop some sort of points/reward system. For example, if you have 20 chores a day, each check is worth 1 point and after you reach 100 points give yourself a small, inexpensive gift. I keep my list posted on the wall so it's out in the open and I have to confront it everyday.

I hope this helps!

As for the showering, I still am having trouble with that. Focusing on the clean pleasant feeling that comes after having showered helps me to be more motivated.

Good luck!!