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Originally Posted by whoswho
I suppose it depends on the people involved in the relationship. My ex kind of insisted on paying for everything; sometimes I would FORCE him to let me buy him a coffee or something. I actually really hate having people buy stuff for me, a date or not. Of course it made sense considering that he had a job and I didn't, but still. I suppose it's kind of a strange thing to "complain" about!
I'd say in general expect to split things about 50-50. Just let him know that you want to keep things casual...
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Sounds like my ex and I also, haha. I always insisted on paying and that girl tried her best to pay for anything she could.
I am young, but I still live in the "old-fashioned" days I guess. Money isn't a big deal to me. I don't have a ton of it, but at the same time I won't go out with someone unless I have enough money to pay for both of us. Whenever I have dated I have had enough money to pay for the girlfriends I was with. It's really a pride thing for me, I guess it is my way of being "manly" or a "gentleman". I wasn't necessarily raised like that, but it's a trait I learned and just can't stray from it. I hate having someone I am dating pay for anything. In fact, I have been to the grocery store with an ex before and when we got to the check-out lane I surprised her and paid for the whole thing. I think it made her feel uncomfortable but it's just who I am.
Anyways, it depends on the people and the relationship. If you are with a guy that insists on paying, let him. If I say I have the money to pay then I do and I will insist on paying. If someone is willing to pay, then I would let them. It might just be in their nature. If you feel uncomfortable then you could always have a sit-down and tell them that you would prefer to pay for some of the meals. As long as he is happy paying and you don't mind him paying then I wouldn't worry. Obviously there isn't a set rule.