trying to deal with my gf or suffers from bpd. i have learned alot of helpful things, but i still can't figure out how to deal with her behavior when she pulls away. things will b going great then she for no reason just starts distancing herself. if i say something about it she either says she has just been busy or she gets really defensive. i have to be VERY careful with how i bring things up n what words i use or she just errupts. we have been on this cycle for ten years. i can't just let her treat me like crap n not do her part in the relationship but i have no idea to get her to understand how her behavior is wrong and how it is negatively effecting our relationship. i'm at a lost feeling hurt and very frusterated. any advice?