I believe men should pay...treat the lady as a lady, open the door for her, help her be seated etc, though my insecurities and lack of trust that a date is just a date nothing more untill both parties want it to never once let me allow the man to pay for me. I insist in paying in full unless it is really expensive then i suggest we go dutch and each pay towards it, not that i have been on many dates before and have always been very independent financially.