I agree with what everyone said about finding other resources, but I must also put forth a warning. A lot of books and other resources out there are very negative about BPD. When I first discovered BPD and was searching for more info and help, most of the sites I found were geared towards the loved ones and basically said "So you have a gf with BPD...sucks to be you." There are things that will help. Just a warning. I was very discouraged for a long time due to that. So many places seem to look at BPD as an incurable death sentence.