BPD-type behavior (in my mind, which is a scary place to be ) is when someone reacts like you're angry with them, have picked a fight with them, are working against them, & it's generally out of the blue. Things like "no one on this board emotionally supports me", or long rants and raves about hating oneself, and especially the subtle manipulation. Having my mother and her brother (my CSA perp) both act like this has probably set my personal bar WAY too high and made me sensitive in cases where the situation may not exactly be the way I am experiencing it.

But, I don't have this reaction to everyone with BPD. I'm not trying to insult anyone with the diganosis. It's not the people, it's certain behaviors that I am unwilling to tolerate. No need to subject myself to any of this added annoyance in my free time. There's an ignore function for a reason.