Well Explained PButton. For example: I have a friend who has a diagnosis of BPD. I guess it was a month or so ago, I decided to deactivate my FaceBook. It did not have anything to do with anyone or any particular thing. I simply did not want it anymore. So when my friend saw that it was deactivated. She sent me a text that said "I tried to write you on FB but saw you are no longer there. Why are trying to get away from me and why do you hate me?" It really had nothing to do with her, but she made it about her. I have a very low tolerance for that and because of it, I would not give into her and tell her I don't hate her. I just said "It's not about you. See you later. I have to go now"