I'm not asking her to put me before her health. That's not what I'm saying at all. I'm sry if you misunderstood. I am just confused as to why she is coming down so hard right now. It's because I care about her health that I'm making a big deal out of this. I want it so that I WONT be in crisis while she is gone. So that she CAN think only about her health.

I don't know why you are so angry... And forgive me if I am misinterpreting your post.