I am certainly not sitting here telling you that what he is doing is right, because it is definitely not. I will say this, though, people are very loose with their words. I have been in a lot of relationships similar to this. Sometimes they would be the one to call me names, sometimes I would be, and sometimes both. What I really learned during those relationships is that some relationships just can't work. For whatever reason, he can't control his anger around you. That isn't a good sign. Could he change? Sure, but you don't want to wait around and find out.

I was in a long-term relationship when I was younger and I didn't know how to handle this. I would let me anger get the best of me. I was never physically abusive to anyone, but I would use hurtful words at times. It is something I learned to control. I also made it back with that person and we never had problems like that again. I also hadn't ever let my anger get to me like I did when I was with her. I learned that at that point in my life, I couldn't handle being with her. Sometimes that's just how it is. Think of it as two chemicals being mixed together. Sometimes nothing happens, and sometimes they explode. It works that way with people too.

One more thing you need to know is that people who start the name calling and aggression are going to test you and see what you allow them to do. He is going to start off slow, and if you allow it and continue to stay with him it will get worse and worse. You have to let him know right away that you aren't someone who can take that, and that he can not treat you like that. You have to show him you won't take it, even if you have to leave him. People who act like that will test their limits, you can't let that happen.

Wishing you the best in this difficult time.