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Old Nov 25, 2012, 11:29 PM
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Spinning, your description of events sounds like you are having trouble communicating with your T rather than he thinks you are or are not ready. This sentence really stood out to me as an example of miscommunication--leaping to assumptions, reading your T's mind, not stating directly what you wish to know, etc.: "I was going to remind him that I already said I was ready, but he obviously doesnt think I am, so I didnt want to argue it. I made up some bull about being ambivilant, and he seemed to agree with it, so I guess that's what he's thinking." I wonder why you didn't remind him that you had already said you were ready? I don't think he obviously didn't think you were ready and I wonder why you leaped to that conclusion? Then I wonder why you told him sort of made up bull about being ambivalent instead of just asking him a direct question? Why play these games? Why not facilitate your progress in therapy by using direct communication? This will help you get the relief you want and that T is offering. My T once told me that the rate of progress a client makes in therapy is often tied to their communication skills and ability to communicate in a direct fashion. He often spends time at the beginning of therapy teaching clients to communicate directly if they don't have this skill.

Can you share with your T the post you made? Then your T will see at a glance the communication difficulty you are having and maybe can help you with that before doing the deep work. It will be worth it!
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