Others have responded to the question about males sitting with legs uncrossed. But about your question about your own body language--I think this is a great thing to ask your therapist. He is male so he may be more sensitive to signals coming from a female. What better person to ask?! Maybe he will say that playing with hair and jewelry gives off certain signals. If so, I didn't know that, but I'm not a guy. My therapist has told me a few things from a guy perspective that I never would have guessed. Go ahead and ask.