I know things about my T and that includes some of his "issues", the things he has struggled with in his life. I think that the key is past tense, as I think for a T to share ongoing or current issues would be weird. And then there's the level of detail sharing-- I know few details about said issues, and I think a detailed disclosure, as opposed to a one sentence or two factual statement that is oriented towards sharing how he moved from place a to place b or something like that, would be more uncomfortable for me.

But I do think that the instinct to want to know more about what T has overcome, as opposed to currently going through, may come from a healthy place of reaching out for connection in a deeper way. I know it has been good for me to relate to my T as a real person, as a man, not just as a role, my T.