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Originally Posted by Anne2.0
In nonverbal communication, looking at the other person while you are speaking is considered a "power" position, where looking at the other person while he is speaking is considered submissive.
Playing with hair and jewelry is also considered a "submissive" posture, especially if one is tilting one's neck to the side in order to do so.
I've had two male T's and neither one sat in that traditional male posture, both cross their legs and point their crotch away from me, their upper body relaxed and aligned with me. I do the same, except I like to sit up on the couch with my back to the arm, in cross legged position or some variation of lotus.
In general I do not like men to sit across from me with their crotch pointed at me. You may interpret that as you will, Dr. Freud (said to no one in particular).
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My T sits the exactly same way- I knew he learnt it in T's school
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Playing with one's hair could be a nervous thing, could be a seductive thing- I've seen it done both ways and you can tell the difference.
I too have a CSA history and wondered if I'm sending some sex vibes- asked my T and no he can't see it. However, he told me that 1. it's common for guys to hit on girls they like and I'm just hypersensitive about it and always blame myself for it (i.e. like it's a bad thing- which it isn't
) 2. some guys (but only few of them) can tell when they see an "easy prey"- someone who is scared- and get off on it (happen to me only once- some sleazy guy in a bar).
His sitting position is kind of weird though- it doesn't have to mean a thing- but you should feel safe enough with your T to be able to tell him how you feel about it
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