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Originally Posted by drcz24
My wife and I were much like the two of you. We were together for 8 years before we were married. After a certain amount of abstaining it becomes the norm and you don't want to break out from that. I would suggest once you're married and ready to be intimate you just try pleasuring each other by hand with the lights off under the covers. That way it's just touching. Hopefully that breaks the ice enough to lead to other sexual activities and an overall healthy sexual relationship as you 2 explore each others bodies. Most of all, each of you needs to be completely open about what each of you want sexually and what you are and are not comfortable doing for each other so there isn't any misunderstandings.
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Good Lord Almighty, eight years. That's closer to what we originally planned on--We wanted to wait till we had our bachelor's. But we've waited so long already, we'd rather be poor marred kids whose family thinks they're nuts rather than sad college kids who wait, and wait, and wait, and get lots of accusations of sex before marriage from the overly suspicious Christian grandparents. :P I admire that you were able to wait that long. Though I think you described what I'm feeling exactly, which I have been unable to put into words. It's scary to move on from such a comfortable phase which we've been in for so long.
Oh my gosh. *hides face in hands* And I don't even know how I'll react when things get a tiny bit steamy. I might clam up and run into the bathroom and refuse to come out. At least that's what I feel like doing when I think about it. :P