Envy, I so know what you are going through .. My x partner of 11 years walked away from me and his daughter too .. He told me the same, he never wants another relationship with me again in his lifetime .. Ouch that hurts .. I still care very much for him, but I know he means it. He will not be back and still I shake my head at it .. It takes awhile for the shock to sink in .. the are they Really doing this ? Really ?
Worse, in the end, I too wanted to be friends and keep things friendly 1/2 for the sake of our child .. and 1/2 because the pain was intense .. slow denial .. maybe it helped me somewhat because things were moving too fast .. I can't believe the way its all changed.. When he calls now, he acts as though we were never together .. He specifically just asks for our daughter .. He's done things like been singing songs when I've answered his calls .. hot n dirty was one of them .. yeah, this was lovely ..car full of guys in the background .. The pain has been intense ..I'm watching him slowly walk away from his daughter and run from me .. The worst will be when I have to go through the pain of seeing him with someone else; and possibly worse; our daughter seeing him ..

I'd be careful about engaging in the sex part with him .. if it happens, i wouldn't beat myself up and accept where I am .. but mine did the same at first .. i ended up sleeping with him and hoping there would be some kind of affection; sign he loves me still but .. it never comes .. I ended up feeling Worse and then regretting and staying in the obsession for longer .. it basically fogs my thinking while he gets the best of both worlds ..

I'm grateful for forums out here where we can share .. It does get better; we do get stronger .. wondering if there is a divorce care meeting anywhere by you; they are supposed to be good .. hang in there .. keep sharing ..