No, my T has never done that. It sounds mean. I give him lots of personal and sensitive information--this is trust. If he were to use the information (knowledge of my buttons) to get some sort of reaction out of me, then it would be a breach of trust. Therapy is not a game. This would seriously harm things between us. I think my T would take a more direct and honest approach, e.g. "I'm worried about you because your friend died and you seem unmoved by it. I'd like to help you be able to express some of your feelings in therapy--are you able to talk about it?"