I hope we can. He's just rang and we talked briefly. He says if I don't see him how can there be a relationship ? That I see, but he doesn't know jusj how bad I am, with the D. He doesn't know I live in bed, rarely showering, never dressing.

I so wanted him to say it was because of me that he changed his mind, but he didn't. Previously our relationship of 10 years just never went anywhere i.e. He wouldn't commit. I wanted and still do, marriage.

How long do I wait ? That's a whole different question !

However, when I finally do see him, do I withold sex ? For how long ? I don't want to be his f*ckbuddy, but what about this need for sex ? Should our sexual needs be met, and should I realise whilst I can live without sex, I'd rather have and enjoy a sex life.
If I don't fulfill his sexual needs then surely he will look elsewhere.

Thank you for your post