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Originally Posted by quizzickle
Unhappyguy. No matter the roadblocks...it isn't about fixing. That's a damned misconception that seems to be promoted and we allow ourselves to believe it.
I think too many docs don't stress that the shite is best approached by acknowledging problems...understanding them....and then stressing adaptation...and not allowing the patient to think fixing. 'Fixing' is ********e.
The illusion of 'fixing' mood and personality disorders continues to ravage the psyche and has some patients always looking for a 'normal' that doesn't exist. Hence an ongoing anxiety and depression from never getting there. That crap just adds to the existing difficulties. Folks don't need it. Too many believe 'fixed'.
Oh yeah, on another note Nicks link looked pretty interesting. Worth a look. I saved that one. Thank you Nicks. Hey Unhappy...take it easy...things can change. If I may ask...are you getting any benefits from medication? It can help with some things and may take some perseverance and trying some different ones. Lessening the pressure of some symptoms may change outlook enough to affect other things that have been problematic.
There are ways to adapt man...meds can be a great start but not unless the best ones are found. Don't mean to be intrusive...just curious to know the options you've looked at. Maybe folks here can offer some angles you haven't thought of y'know?
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WARNING: THIS IS A RANT.
I am on meds for epilepsy and a heart beat problem. Because of my epilepsy, I am unable to tolerate most anxiety and anti-d meds which is just as well because I don't like feeling stoned anyway. Anti-d meds inhibit sexual function and do not help with my anti-sexual nature. Being gay is not for me because I don't fit in. In fact, I don't fit in anywhere. The more therapy I have to try to adapt the more I hate myself and the more depressed I get. I am tired of changing to please others. I was conditioned to be like this by a very cold, often cruel, controlling and angry mother and neglectful father. T's give me (questionable) advice that I don't want to do like sleep around and party but I don't know how to have fun. Sex with strangers does not make me happy. Love feels totally foreign; trying to connect with others raises complex emotional problems, in particular, it forces me to deal with the lack of love and closeness with my parents. Simple things like dating are emotionally overwhelming and totally unenjoyable. I find rejection in the gay community so I just stay home and isolate. Trying to adapt, with my background, just makes me miserable. T's say that eventually, I will adapt and things will get better but that has not been the case. I am tired of fighting my innate feelings. I have lost confidence in counseling.
Please, no more posting of song lyrics. As usual, today is the same. I am alone and unhappy. However, being alone is safer than trying to succeed with my lousy social skills.