ATM you're very discouraged with your life and can't see any hope. The more the person tries to think of solutions, the more depressing it becomes. It becomes a circle of frustration. This is when acceptance comes handy and doesn't mean giving up. It means going on with your life taking one day at a time. If you're meeting people online - could you start out by saying you're looking for friendship for now? Yes I agree male vs female thinking is different.