Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs


I would say yes, sex is a basic need, but obviously not the most important need. There are other things to consider before sex such as safety and security which includes health, family, and social stability. For you, those needs aren't met and you're not ready for sex. For him, his health is stable, but his social needs aren't met because he is juggling his want for sex with his faithfulness with you. Depression is a trying illness not just for the one depressed but for the support lines such as friends and family. I have firsthand experience myself being bipolar, I get so depressed and angry it interferes with family and work. My family will always be there for me, but I can't rely on my friends and coworkers to pull me through--that's not what they're capable or willing to do. I don't know your relationship with your boyfriend, but he may not be capable to handle your depression and unwillingness to provide sex, though it seems he's willing to try and stay faithful. He wants to be the good guy, but yes, his sex drive is pushing him away from that.

The problem is that he's ready for sex and you're not, and people only have so much patience in spite of love and faithfulness. I can't give relationship advice because I don't know your relationship, but love and sex are two separate things and don't always go hand in hand. If his need for sex is so bad he has to call an escort, then he has some problems of his own that you can't control and you may not want that in a relationship.