Hi Jan,

You dont know me, yet, but i know what you mean!
i mean my mom was the same when her dad was sick, she neglected us in order to take care of him!

You need to talk to her Jan, not shout or argue but sit down and tell her what you feel inside, and how it is hurting you as well! If you fight or shout, she will take this as an attack and will not take care of anything you have to say, but if you talk to her showing her your hurt she will listen and help i am sure!!

A mother is a mother no matter what she does, and inside she will know what to do! All you need is for her to understand nevermind the rest of the family. She will be your rock!

Its hard to have a mother like that i know, but after we (my, mother and me ) became friends it changed my world! i mean friends are fine and vital in your life, but nothing replaces a mother. Thats y im asking you to try and work it out like civilised people, express yourself clearly but calmly, and it would be your greatest achivement in your life!
Trust me!

I hope everything goes well! If you ever need someone to talk to just pm me! im always available! Take care and get back to me if you want!